I want to stay anonymous but what should I do she acted like my best friend why I was recovering from a double stroke hemorrhage and she messed around with my husband knowing me and him are married and me and my husband have starting fixing our marriage for two days after the affair ended she blew up my phone and his I still have the messages and before we figured out how to block her we dont know how many friends she was able too friend request. But two days ago a person that is friends with both me and my husband had to block her because she was trying to come between him and his wife. So she is still trying to come between marriages. So should I tell our married friends who she is or stay out of it?
I need some advice, not sure if this pertains to this page but if you could please post and keep anonymous I’d be grateful..
My situation is this, my S/O and I have been together for going on 11 years, along the way there has been lies but no cheating (that I’m aware of, and trust me I’ve been burned before so I’ve learnt to become very sneaky and observant) but back to my situation at hand.. We live together, 2 kids.. I’ve been feeling like something is off but of course I ask and get the “nothing’s wrong” we’re good” spiel.. Seems like he’s detaching and idk why.. We sleep in the same bed under separate covers, he’s been going off on the weekends all day long says he’s “working on the car” which I believe him, we have had issues with the car, but what gets me is he seems like he doesn’t want to spend time with me and doesn’t care if he does.. He leaves, comes home, goes to the bedroom eat dinner (in the room) and then falls asleep early. Suddenly stopped kissing me goodnight when he has always.. And kinda deflects when ever I ask questions. I have family that works with him but don’t want to look like a psycho asking his co-workers or family so I try to be as nonchalant as possible and try not to ask OBVIOUS questions. But I don’t know if they’d even tell me anything. He seems uninterested I guess. We got into a fight the other night and he swears up and down he isn’t doing anything wrong.. He loves me and only me and only wants to be with me and only is with me.. But I just keep thinking things.. Maybe I’m over thinking it or maybe I’m not.. Just certain things that are there make me question everything. He’s even gotten to the point where he barely text me when he’s gone. There isn’t a lock on his phone, he doesn’t seem to get nervous if I grab his phone either. But things can be deleted.. He’s had a history of drug use in the past that he lied to me about and hid from me so that right there makes it hard to trust him since.. I don’t think he’d cheat but I also dont know that for sure. I don’t know I guess I’m looking for advice on what to do or what others think is going on. I’m a firm believer of “Not all men cheat, not all men are the same” that sounds very naive of me I know. Just don’t know where to turn and wanted some input. Please and thank you.
I have a coworker that followed a man for 9 yrs from state to state knowing he had a family. They had a 9 yr affair. She brags about it and says she “just couldn’t stay away. ” Last yr the wife found out she had moved to Ky from Fl and said enough, they had split up before but he always promised to leave her alone. Now him and my homewrecking coworker are engaged, and I just can’t seem to even pretend to be happy for her. I hear her say vile things about the ex wife and how she is an upgrade and I just can’t believe she is so happy about helping to break up a home. I just can’t look her in the eye and congratulate her with sincerity and secretly I can’t wait til he gets bored with her and dumps her or cheats on her. Is that awful of me!?
I think a lot of it is age. He is 38 and she just turned 25, he was her manager/supervisor at a large retail chain. Her family and her are estranged because of this, they do not approve at all. Smh. I hope I’m not invited to her wedding or shower. I just can’t. Do you have friends that you just can’t be happy for because of the way things fell in place and it’s wrong??
***Please keep anonymous***
Okay, it’s a bit long but here goes….It has been ten years since my now ex cheated with a then 18 year old….I backed off let them do their thing…moved on as well as I could…Our son was only 15 months when it all started…Everything would have been ok if not for me finding out that she was hiding the existence of my ex having a son from her entire family and he sitting by allowing the lies to accumlate. I did some investigating myself and found out who her mother was….It only took me four years lol…His parents also helped keep his lies going for those years as well…They sit in the same waiting as her parents the whole time while these people are assuming everyone is awaiting the arrival of their first child…..well naw 2nd actually….to get back on track I found her mother and come to find out her own father did the same thing to their family when she was a kid….Sad you would think she would know better right? She had no idea about our son or that he had been married…She also said that it explained a lot of things she didn’t understand about him…He is 6 years older than her so her mother disapproved of the relationship from the get go and said she would have tried to stop it…Well again 10 years later and his dad doesn’t have anything to do with him… He has went three years without even visiting him or even a phone call.The three times he did visit when he was older he said he was not comfortable there…I had heard through his family she was jealous because her kids may feel threatened by the relationship between the two…Also trying to explain to a child why there are no pictures of him in his dad’s house is rough…Know good and well that I have sent recent ones through his parent’s for my ex to have….Such a sad fact to know….I just don’t understand because I have not even seen this man in 10 years nor have I contracted him in any way via text, social media ect…etc…That’s 100% truth no crazy baby mama stuff Like I said I backed off and moved on and still to this day I have no desire to see or talk to him….His parents were our mediators which was great for a while, other than finding her mother I was a perfect ex… But I feel like that was for my son’s defense and I have been a descent person to co-parent with…I seriously do not bother him at all and I still will not ever try to. WHAT do you all think about him?
Hello I would like to keep this anon if it is ok for the readers of the page.
I would not say I have a problem, my problem left my house so no worries on my part. I do however have a couple of questions. When the term “Homewrecker” is used does it always have to be between two people that are married, dating, exclusive? This woman whom I thought I was helping moved into my house and destroyed my family, she infiltrated my home first. My husband and I were in the middle of a heated discussion which she invited herself into, my husband was angry with me and he and I were yelling at each other and it carried over to her. He did as he always does and leaves to cool down for an hour or so. Ok family one down. About a month later she moved in with my brother and his wife and kids. They had relations it is not hard to figure out. Wife still don’t know or is turning a blind eye not sure don’t care. The HW has made my mother out to be a bad guy in all this and that is not the case. She has also made pretty much everything about her. She has since left from here and the state in which I live…she has moved on to play with someone else’s emotions that is her whatever. In her wake she has pretty much told lies on all of us stolen from us by stolen I don’t mean material things I mean security things like that. I have a lot of information on her and screen shots of messages between her and others and her and my family do I hold on to them until the right time or do I send them to where they need to go, or should I just stay out of it? I have nothing to gain doing any of the mentioned other than validation that I was right when I got yelled at by my sister in law about certain things…So at this point what I am asking is two things Does a homewrecker only include married people or is it any home, and what should I do with the info I have?
Please keep annomous. I’m 36 yrs old. December 25th will mark 5 months of marriage and since then I’ve been nothing to him. He’s telling me the only reason he married me was I kept bugging him while a friend of ours told me he’s been wanting to marry me. He will not let me use my new name thinking I’m rushing things. The first 3 months was great and now it turned to worse. He kept blaming me things that I never did, takes his anger out on me, he spends more time on his phone then me his excuse is trying to make money. I don’t see him making money while he’s playing games. He never keeps his for anything. I have no money, no vehicle and no job. I pay child support for 3 kids and they are threatening to throw me in jail. We lost are 4 bedroom house cause he couldn’t pay rent so now we are in a small camper at a truck stop. I love him to death but I also don’t like how he’s treating me. I have no place to go and no friends to help. All shelters are full cause of the cold temperatures. I’m confuse and hurt. Part of me wants to stay and the other wants to leave.