I have a question for all you ladies. My fiancé works closely with a woman and it was always fine with me. Last night he said they often stop at a gas station and he’ll buy her a snack or drink. This really really bothered me, should I feel uncomfortable with it? The affair he had was with a girl from work, it was 10 months ago and I should be past it but I don’t like him treating another woman to snacks. He says he sees it as charity because she makes a lot less than him and that I shouldn’t be insecure. Thoughts?
I’d like for you to share my story I need some advice on a situation I am in… I’ve been dating this guy for going on 10 years now and we have 4 kids together lately I have found myself pulling away from him bcz he drinks every night and calls me names on a daily basis like I’m fat and a worthless piece of s**** he tells me all the time I will never find anyone better than him … He’s also put his hands on me on multiple occasions and I’m so scared of him but I can’t find the strength to leave him or call the cops .. another problem is that he tells his mom everything and then she starts blowing up my phone saying nasty things to me I have become very depressed at this point and idk what to do I know I should leave him but I don’t know how I’m scared that he is going to hurt me with all the emotional and physical abuse he has put me through I’m starting to believe it in my head I just want to be happy again … Please don’t say my name in the post.
Please keep anonymous almost 2 years ago my boyfriend of a year-and-a-half was going through some depression problems and didn’t come to me to talk about it instead he started turning to some mutual friend sort of and another person he had just met at work at first it was harmless just people to vent to flash share funny pictures but then my nerve started feeling weird like my body knew something was wrong and not being said eventually he stopped at this point telling me about their little dancers he stopped showing me the pictures they would send started tilting his phone away started brushing off that it was just a buddy of mine went text would come through at weird times started feeling weird amongst these people with his presence there too like something unsaid between them was happening and I wasn’t aware of it they would look down at their phones and I think they couldn’t be talking to each other they’re right next to each other what they wore and I found out those pictures weren’t harmless they were all filthy dirty pictures plus selfies I guess what you call breasts and he keeps denying it but he did send dick pics I finally caved and looked I guess I couldn’t take not knowing and having no answers anymore I couldn’t keep living like a sudden person doing nothing but being a good girl and then finding out the one person I could trust and live in was deceiving me doing such disgusting things behind my back and making me feel like a fool for going out with someone so low and shallow I wasn’t anything like these girls they were vulgar basic girl girl basically filling the empty air with whatever they could spew out into words to seem intellectual or clever but they weren’t and people would just say oh they’re just nice but they would use their nice this to get into your God knows what and then leave you with the mess when I confronted him he would deny it when I try to talk to him he did not it and finally we got to this point where we can openly talk about how I feel about people that try to talk to him and most the time he Heats my warning and when I confronted the two girls after I confronted him and almost died from a panic attack they denied it I told him I saw the proof and then they tried to say he didn’t have a relationship or a girlfriend or I was just his roommate trying to pin it on him not trying to sound like they lured him in like they did then try to say if you need someone to talk to you can talk to me I’m sorry this happened like I want to talk to someone who blatantly didn’t try to be friends with me who obviously was in it only to get into my boyfriend’s pants who almost succeeded physically getting what they wanted well I got some stuff my emotion his emotion my time stress anxiety attacks naked photos of God knows what else said that he didn’t get to deleting my sanity my trust and above all my faith in humanity and my gender I’m not like them I’m not like them at all if I ever did something that that I wouldn’t even be able to do it I don’t think I would probably kill myself if I ever did that to someone and that’s why I’m asking you to be anonymous with this I just want to warn people because I never openly talk to it about it to anyone else but him and when I confronted those two girls and the same thing with any other girl who’s been trying to do the same thing since I’ve never openly name to them and I feel like it’s time that I say something that I give other girls or men some warning some label to these creatures that hide under a pretty face a nice temperament a shoulder to cry on to get what they want money attention drugs sex relationship who knows but they’re going to try and I just want to warn them if you promise to keep this Anonymous I’ll give you the names I’ll give you all the names and pray to God or whatever religion or higher power or light that these people will not gain anything else from anyone else again it’s almost there 4 year anniversary I finally have trust and faith in him again but there’s this one girl it keeps talking to him and he keeps talking up like she’s Sunshine but I can see she’s just one of those vulgar bitches that I’m on like that somehow attract him and get under his skin and trap him with his claws he’s only finally admitted that she is annoying and finally sees what I’m seeing and stop talking to her supposably I haven’t seen any evidence either he really hasn’t and is a good boy again or he’s just really good at fooling me and deleting stuff again whatever the outcome he’s not getting a second chance. Right?
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I’ve been in a relationship with a man for 9yrs. We have 2 kids together. Have been engaged 2yrs. He cheated on me 6yrs ago but we have passed through it. Well I found out last June that he was talking to someone he worked with. He told me it was nothing but later admitted they kissed. Yesterday she emailed him wishing him a happy holiday. Well I got curious and looked through his emails and it turns out they have been intimate. I love him but asked him to leave. My kids and myself are really upset and I don’t know what to do. He said he’s sorry but I don’t know what to do. Please no judgement. I just need advice. I feel like my whole world has been turned upside down. All I wanted was my family to be happy.
I am a horrible person. I will tell you now. On August 5 my husband whom I have not been with for 16 years killed his girl friend and then himself. I was left everything, so after his memorial I rented his trailer to a couple of guys working on the pipe line. The one guy and I became very close knowing he was engaged and had 2 little girls. I also was involved with someone for 12 years. After several weeks we slept together. I told my boyfriend a few weeks later, he begged me to work things out, I did not want to even though the other guy and I decided no strings attached. We texted and talked for several months, never slept together again. Then one night he ask me if I was mad at him and I told him no. We chatted a little longer that night then I never heard from him for several weeks. I went back to my boyfriend, the other guy would text me every once in awhile, but nothing friendly just need favors from me. Nothing sexual. We’ll I just found out their job is done this week. So I said to him will you be back around here ever he said idk. We’ll I texted him have a nice life and I was going to delete him from my contacts, and he told me ok. My whole thing is I am in love with him. I never told him or anything, because I know sleeping with him was wrong but he made me feel good about myself. Now I am heart broken, but I would never say anything I know he loves his gf. But I am so in love with him, and so hurt he can’t even say good bye.
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How do you forget after choosing to forgive. The love of my life did me wrong and I truly believed his apology and promise it would never happen again. Despite my better judgment I chose to work it out with him. While I truly believe now he isn’t doing me wrong and won’t again, I can’t forget what he did, how I discovered it, I can’t forget any of it and some days it consumes me. Despite proving to myself time and time again since then he isn’t doing anything wrong now, I still feel the need to check his phone, check up on where he is and what he is doing and so on. I don’t know how to get past it. Also there is the anger and hatred I feel to the skank bitch he did me wrong with. I literally spend hours of my life wanting to hurt and make this person as miserable as I am. Any advice on how to move on?