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It truly is a long story. The date is really uncertain to me and is an estimate. Where I get it is actually from the time period the slut indicates when the sex started based on a copy of the petition for child support she filed after my husband kicked her out.

After years of miscommunication on both ends, my husband and I slept in separate rooms and hardly talked to each other. Mainly my issues with him were that he didn’t “grow up”, wanting to go out with friends late at night and not help around the house…really.. “minor” things compared to what others or the majority may have gone through to have resulted in someone cheating. We both had respectable and stable jobs… I just felt like the partner he was “supposed to be”, at that time, as my boyfriend/fiancé/husband and co parent just never was in him.

I met my husband when I was 18, dated him when I was 19, got engaged to him at 22, married him at 24 and had our first son at 26. With the exception of my first kiss, he was my first everything else. I didn’t push for a marriage nor was there a rush to have a child. I made sure we took everything very slow to be sure we were right for each other… I was naïve and I knew by other people’s experiences being naïve and in a serious relationship may not be the best of mix… I knew this and I thought of every possible scenario that he would be able and could get away with and felt if he hadn’t done it while he was “free” during his time with me, then he wouldn’t do it when he was married. The serious girlfriend before me he was about to propose to, even cheated on HIM. There was NO way, he would or could do that to me…he knew how painful it was…. Yeah, not so much.

During the time we separated in October of 2010, I never met this girl, never heard of her or about   after up trying everything I could think of for the past 5 years to help save our marriage (talking, yelling, counseling, threatening to divorce him, and finally going to church for MYSELF- since all others didn’t change HIM, all our problems then must totally be ME), he wanted to move out, and instead I told him that our son and I would leave (just in case a divorce were to happen, I didn’t want to be in the house or deal with selling the house after the fact…I didn’t want anything about it…plus it was too far for me to drive to work anyways). He moved in this person who had, at the time a 1 year old boy. I asked him point blank if he cheated on me (on a few occasions before this because we hadn’t had sex for almost 2.5 years by then and I had a feeling something was up) he said no. I asked him if this was his kid, he said no. At that time, I chose to believe him. Besides, I’ve been with him for so long and I wanted to believe he just wouldn’t or couldn’t be capable of something that horrifying. I felt that maybe time apart may be good and hopefully he can figure things out and we can work on “us” better…but I was not comfortable with him having a “roommate”. There was nothing I can do. I gave him 6 months after our son and I left to figure whatever it was he needed to out and all the while I was getting the weirdest feeling about the entire situation. Many times I asked what he wanted and always “I don’t know”. Finally, I pulled the trigger and filed for divorce on his birthday; without warning he was served…then it all got ugly. I didn’t understand since he said he wanted the divorce during the summer of 2010 but nothing I did to help us or “fix me” helped thus resulting in me just leaving. So after waiting 6 months and he wasn’t doing anything (to go forward with a divorce or try to reconcile), I was over it. And by that time, a good part of me felt he was lying in some way…yet even then my heart wanted to believe the best over my intuition.

After a year of attorneys, we were on the cusp of finalizing the divorce. All we were waiting on was a court date to have judge make a ruling (mediation was unsuccessful- he was pushing for majority timeshare or at minimum 50/50 and honestly, I was fighting that tooth and nail-details about that are too lengthy to go into, but trust me I wholeheartedly believe that my son would have been better off with me as majority and it wasn’t because I wanted to “stick it” to my husband either).

As I waited and kept calling my attorney for updates to when we can finally get this over with, my husband started acting like a human being in June 2012. I still loved him after all the crap he put me through up to that point and the pain he inflicted with his attitude and words. So when he began to be civil, I was relieved, happy but so on guard. I already didn’t trust him and had to keep in the back of my mind “we are almost done, almost divorced…he wanted this, HE WANTED…THIS DIVORCE…he’s been lying all this time to you..” Still, I gave him a chance; allowed him to take me to lunches, movies, dinner most included our son so that we can spend time together as the 3 of us (after all, I will have to have a “working” relationship with this man when we are no longer married. Thought this may be good practice for the “new life”.) Needless to say, a majority of the time we schedule time for the 3 of us, the little boy would somehow end up with him. Always, the reason was that he “had to” watch him that day/night or whatever. Again, I asked him if he was his kid and again a “no”. I wasn’t buying it, but I NEEDED a CONFESSION. I had almost everything else telling me the truth…but I NEEDED HIM to TELL ME.. and because he wasn’t, my heart still wanted to believe what he told me; even when his reasons why he had to watch this kid was absolutely ridiculous.

At the end of June, I had just accepted to believe that this kid wasn’t his and that he hadn’t cheated on me while we were living together and only until the end of 2011 was he “dating” her. But near the end of July we had an argument over the phone because I still couldn’t understand why this little boy had to be with us most of the time we hung out.. It just didn’t feel “right”.. So finally I told him that we can’t be doing what we are doing. It just won’t work out and I didn’t want to confuse our son with nonsense or give him hope he shouldn’t have. But he kept pursuing and wanted to know what he should do to make me believe he wants to “try us” again. I told him she needs to leave by a certain date and if that’s not an option, there was nothing else to do or talk about. After all, if it WAS his kid, he would have to fess up if she wasn’t gone by my deadline, right?

And just like that, she was kicked out, but she did not leave quietly. The day she left our house, my husband finally tells me that this kid could be his and that was the night AFTER I we had sex together in over 4 years! What goes through a woman’s mind after all that has happened leading up to that confession is UNREAL. You think you are prepared, but ultimately, you never truly are or can be. Weeks later, I find out from a family member on my husband’s side that leading up to getting kicked out of the house, the slut ran to his mother and told her that the child was his.

Currently, I’m working through this every day. A lot of things happened since that confession… A LOT. Too much to write but definitely major. I’m still not divorced. I have chosen to stay with my husband… for now. Yes, crazy enough, I do and still love him. I know he made HUGE mistakes…repeatedly. And he IS trying to right his wrongs (as much as anyone could possibly at this level)… and with him trying, I am LEARNING a lot about people, relationships, GOD, forgiveness, revenge, bitterness, family and myself (and how it all plays into my development as a mom ,wife, friend, woman).

I don’t trust him like I used to (if ever) and I’m not certain how much that will affect our future. I’m not super happy….yet. But I’m not miserable, either. I’d say I’m indifferent most days and “loving” on others. My son and his best interests are always on the forefront with me, but I also am conscious of how his needs and my happiness can find balance. I don’t know. I no longer have high expectations (if at all). In a way, I feel a lot freer. I’ve done well and everything right in GOD’s eyes, I believe, up to this point. I have never cheated on anyone. Even while separated, I chose not to date anyone or have sex with anyone until I was completely divorced. I wanted to be able to look my son’s face, when and if he were to ever ask anything about this ordeal, and answer, without shame and regret, the truth with integrity. I wanted to ensure I was and always will be his moral compass.

I acknowledge I am with faults. I would like to say I have let this skank and her “brief” reign in my life go but she has caused so much destruction (yes, along with my husband). I feel that this submission might help me “release” the anger towards her (and the residual towards him). Unlike my husband, I do not feel she is sorry for her part in this mess. She allowed herself to be involved with a married man who had a year old son at the time. SHE KNEW ALL THIS. Regardless of any issues a man had in his marriage a woman of class and intelligence would NEVER give this man the time of day unless he was FREE(i.e divorced) to receive her attention. And on top of it all SHE GOT PREGNANT!

His family is now broken. His whole family stopped talking to me like they used to from the end of 2011 of our separation up to the following summer that he and I started talking again. I understood, after all “blood is thicker than water” and I expected it. I didn’t expect to be “kicked out” of major holidays and birthdays, however. Nevertheless, him mom was diagnosed with Cancer that summer and died 3 weeks later. His sister tried to talk to me, but not about the important issue of her befriending the skank and blaming her brother for the family’s issues. I couldn’t stomach the fakeness. I was polite to everyone as needed and did what I could to help during their mother’s illness, but I couldn’t resume friendly relations after how they all treated me and how they were treating the slut as the victim and not as she truly was -AN ACCOMPLICE. Skank apparently knew this little boy could be my husband’s yet she told NO ONE of his possible paternity UNTIL SHE WAS GETTING KICKED TO THE CURB. Seriously? That is where my anger lies. She has no remorse, no shame, no regrets what so ever to the lies and deceit she help create. She has broken a family and now her son is introduced to new men (yeah, that slut just moved in with another man who just built a house after just a few months of knowing him). My heart breaks for my stepson (technically)… he should have been my child… not hers.

Attached is a transcript of the texts she and I sent to each other after my husband confessed that he may be the father. He said he wasn’t totally sure since, when the time she conceived; she was also with another man (engaged)…. He lied to me before so I needed a 3rd party to tell me the truth. I wanted a paternity test and I wanted it fast. Attached are some of her photos. And below is the transcript: (couldn’t figure out a way to convert into one attached picture).

 

SMS with Evelyn Encabo Sotto

SMS/Evelyn Texts            x

 

8/9/12

to Evelyn

 

Evelyn- This is Leila. I would like for you and Brent to meet Jeff and me tomorrow- Friday @ 10am at Arcpoint Labs 6639 Southpoint Parkway #106, 32216. This is for the paternity test and I would hope you would be there. If u cannot make it tomorrow, let me know. Next Monday and Tuesday are other options. Please cooperate; I want to get this done ASAP to move on. If u refuse, I will subpoena you. Your choice. I request a response from you by 6pm, today.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

i already have request a paternity test.but if want it done asap gusta find.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

I see u romorrow.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

I mean if u want it done asap thats find.

8/9/12

 

 

to Evelyn

Good to hear..tomorrow @ 10am. If you fail to show, I will proceed with a subpoena to be served to you.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

I though u already move on.ur cheating husband is not attracted wt you anymore.he called you fat thats why he cheated on you..

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

Lol..thats funny do it..

8/9/12

to Evelyn

Lol!…no, honey..you know nothing…shows just how ignorant and 3rd world country you really are.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

Ur husband wish u died.

8/9/12

to Evelyn

Shows how much you want to believe it…he dumped YOU. His HEART was ALWAYS mine.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

 

 

to me

ooh ur the genius..lol

8/9/12

to Evelyn

Shows how desperate you are and just how slutty u want to be..can’t keep men, having to try to trap them with yout stank ass vagina…guess u have to find new tricks, trick.Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

Oh he doenst dumped you?u can have him.

8/9/12

to Evelyn

I am dealing with him as I must, just as I am dealing with your stupid ass. You are trash, and always will be. You need counseling and an education. But u are too stupid to take good advice…good luck with your pathetic life. Poor Brent..how sick u are of a human being to do this to an innocent child. Selfish cunt.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

You can judge me as much as you can.

8/9/12

to Evelyn

I am and I will.. I don’t require your permission. But thanks anyways. 🙂

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

to me

Hahahaha. Slut jealous of my beauty.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

Poor thing.

8/9/12

to Evelyn

Yeah ur sooo beautiful, men leave you once they see just how ugly u really are. Little girl, your looks fade…u already look bloated and old..keep lying to yourself, because that’s all you have to keep u warm at night…pathetic fool.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

his all yours now bitch.

8/9/12

to Evelyn

Thank you…and thanks for the compliment. I am proud to be the better bitch. I’m more a pro than you kid.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

I done with him..now you can lick my left over.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

ohh jeff said that you need your counseling too bitch…and lose ur weight..

8/9/12

to Evelyn

 

 

Lol…you are SO stupid..YOU were the one that HAD MY left over, dummy. I had him FIRST before you failed to keep him. You’re an idiot and such a loser. He figured out who the winner was all along..he didn’t want or need a LOSER like you. He realized what a REAL woman was AFTER trying the FAKE one out. You did him a FAVOR. Thanks for that! Lol! Hahahahaaha!

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

And fat ass you have thats why he cheated on you.he cant handle the fat ass .

8/9/12

to Evelyn

Must mean your a slob…he left you too..YOU must be a WIDE LOAD! hahahahaha! You really have a sense of humor..i’m laughing my ‘fat ass’ off with your ignorance…

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

Hahahaha.oops ur the stupid one jeff and i fucking un ur bed room while ur at work.

8/9/12

to Evelyn

Girl, u did me a favor..what u tell me isn’t news…keep proving to me what a scumbag u are, I know u are sooo proud of yourself.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

Hehehe i left him long time ago.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

 

 

to me

tele.

8/9/12

to Evelyn

Keep lying to yourself. You wanted so much to have your baby daddy you post it on your facebook when HE KICKED YOU OUT, stupid. You are so pathetic

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

yup i do.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

Lol..why your so mad? He will do everything to keep you even do he is not attracted because he is discusting to you.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

his all yours woman i dont need home

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

Your the stupid one.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

 

 

to me

i dont trapped ur men we have a good relationship before but you want home back because you cant find another men cause ur that ugly inside and outside.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

ur poor thing..ur husband cheated because ur that ugly stupid bitch.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

You see you romorrow bitch ..

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

IM working tomorrow I am not going u can send the subpeana

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

U can wait until the court does it. He will get his court order soon

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

 

 

Hey what time again tomorrow?lets get it done..

8/9/12

to Evelyn

10am tomorrow morning…no cost to u. Just ur’s and Brent’s DNA is all I need.

 

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/9/12

to me

Ok.

8/10/12

to Evelyn

If u are choosing to not show up, just say so..we are leaving @ 1030 if u are not here and I will proceed with other options, as needed.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/10/12

to me

No.not showing up.

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/10/12

to me

Go ahead..

8/10/12

to Evelyn

My pleasure

Evelyn Encabo Sotto

8/10/12

to me

Good. i just wAit.

 

 

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