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Jennifer Highers Waycross, Georgia

Well this is a very long story so I will try to make it short.  My husband and I have been together for 17 years and have 3 beautiful girls. I was diagnosed with breast cancer and fought a long hard battle but finally was over it and getting better. I thought the world of my husband. We became very close through my illness; he was great stuck by my side and everything.

As I was recovering my husband took a new job at work and became involved with this homewrecking whore! They took a business trip away together and continued their affair for 3 months before they were caught. I blame myself for being so stupid but I have taken my husband back. Not sure it was the right thing to do because now he’s back and I have lost something for him, not just trust that, I can’t seem to get back. I love him, I know I do, but that closeness we had is gone! I keep telling myself to give it time but it’s been almost a year ago now and I just am not sure. I just can’t get over it.  What do you do any advice?

 

 

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33 Responses to “Jennifer Highers Waycross, Georgia”

  1. Meh says:

    Thought you said it was a long story? That’s one of the shortest I’ve seen on this site :P

    Advise? Once it’s gone, it’s gone. You’re now wasting your time.

    • defending homewreckers is stupid says:

      Meh, try reading it again. Maybe take a class at a community college on reading comprehension, if they are available for adults. She said her story was long but she would make it short. The wife is not wasting her time at all. If she can fix the mess her husband made with the ugly ass tramp, then she should try. Her children deserve the chance at a happy home. That doesn’t mean she has to stay with him in the end. The wife is showing strength in her attempt to forgive. What the husband did was thoughtless and selfish but if the wife thinks they can make their marriage stronger, she has every right to try. Meh, you aren’t one of the Duckers are you?

      • Meh says:

        Sorry, I never learned how to read. It’s a waste of time. Anyways, she said it’s been nearly a year, and she can’t not only get the trust back, but she can’t get the closeness, and/or “something” back. Once that feeling is gone, it’s gone, especially if trust can’t be established. Why waste more time with him, constantly wondering when he’s going to stick his dick in some strange again. You’re right, the chideren deserve a happy home, however with him there, that home will be far from happy, and children can sense that. That’s not fair to her or the kids.

        And what in the fuck is a god damn ducker?

        • VJR says:

          A hubby humper:)

        • defending homewreckers is stupid says:

          My bad. Look up tara ducker on this site. I apologize for thinking you were a ducker.

          • Meh says:

            My god… yeah, I may be a fat fuck, but I’m not that much of a fat fuck. Nor am I female lol

          • defending homewreckers is stupid says:

            I keep forgetting that men can read too. There have been a lot of male commentors lately. I actually think they can be helpful when they are not being assholes like J, K, and R&R (actual commentors). K and J have been behaving themselves somewhat but then they start being jerks again. Anyway, it is good to get a male perspective when it is serious. Do you think it is possible that a man who is really in love with his wife can still have the capacity to cheat? If so, why risk a happy family for a roll in the back seat of a car? Once again, I apologize for thinking you were a vile Ducker.

          • Cali says:

            J & K aren’t too bad. J can be funny…I think he’s a closet softy, and I’ve seen K give useful advice. R&R is just a useless moron. It’s not easy taking a male seriously on this site, but Meh you’ve got a point. If you can’t establish trust again, it’ll never work out and it’ll never be good again…therefore you are wasting your time.

          • Meh says:

            I speak from experience about the trust comment. As for “defending homewreckers is stupid’s” question my honest opinion is, if you’re happy with who your with, and you truly love them, then you have no reason to cheat, furthermore you don’t want to do something that could possibly hurt them. If you are willing to risk hurting them for something as cheap as sex, then you don’t really love them do you? However there could be a scenario where the man loves his wife, but she isn’t sexually active, and he has a high sex drive, that would make cheating tempting, especially if they’ve been thru the talks, or as one post a while back showed, the woman said just go get it somewhere else. However, if you truly loved your wife, but that was such an issue you couldn’t live in a sexless relationship, then out of respect, you would divorce the wife before even looking for a partner to have sex with, or for that matter just try to find a slut. But that’s just my thinking. I’ve been known to be a little fucked in the head.

          • K says:

            Awww, thanks Cali :)

  2. jamie says:

    if you cant get over it I would suggest moving on. No need to spend any more time being unhappy. regardless of poulterer belief you do need more then love.

  3. jackie says:

    I think once that feeling is gone time won’t even help get it back. I think when you go threw stuff like this it changes both of you and sometimes they are not the same person you fell in love with and how do you know he won’t do it again? I would work on moving on I know easier saidthen done but you seem very strong.

  4. Amanda says:

    You can get it back! GOD has to be y’all’s strength! Y’all have to trust that GOD will help y’all! GOD can & will heal all wounds! If both of y’all are willing to try! Good luck & GOD BLESS!!

  5. What state is tara ducker?

    • joy says:

      It could take u days to find it by search if you’re on a cell phone so to save u some trouble:

      http://shesahomewrecker.com/tara-snyder-ducker-avon-indiana-west/#more-7139

      Highly entertaining and deeply disturbing at the same time. This is one that I really feel for the kids.

      p.s. The thread (story & comments) in its entirety is like 1000 pages long LOL. Add to that all the additional links and such from the comments and you’re looking at a good 3000-4000 pages so be prepared to dedicate a good chunk of your Saturday to reading it hahahaha

  6. dotty says:

    Its been since 1986 its never came back.. the trust came but not the same feelings as before

  7. Been There, Done That says:

    haha. I just realized we say “Ducker” here like its a vile word! lmfao. She sure made a name for herself!

    • defending homewreckers is stupid says:

      We have, haven’t we. We can say, “She’s a real Ducker, husband fucker, isn’t she.”

  8. D says:

    Its been over a year for me and the trust is not back still. My husband carried on affair for almost two years.
    We go to counseling together and our therapist said that trust takes a long time to return. Everyone heals at a different pace and depending on the extent of affair. If you know you love him it will return but you have to work at it. If you aren’t willing to keep working then maybe it’s time to move on.
    I am thinking the feeling you are missing is the closeness and if you are like me you feel empty. Lately I have felt a little twinge of feelings again but today is a difficult day and I feel like I took two steps backwards – some times that happens. The empty feeling is because of the hurt, at least in my case. I put up a wall to ensure I won’t get hurt that badly again.
    I definitely am not a believer in “once a cheater, always a cheater”. Sometimes men can change. My husband tells me I am worth fighting for and he is willing to work hard to bring back that closeness we once shared.
    You just have to be willing to keep working at it…lots of luck!

  9. hww says:

    Sometimes you honestly do not know the entire story.. this is one of those times. This woman tells her side but she’s a crazy bitch to begin with. He stayed there because he wants to be a good father. They had trouble before this girl came along. she failed to mention that a few years back – she was the whore that run off and moved in with another man for TWO years while he stayed home and pushed for her return.

  10. Scorned_Lover says:

    Hahaha! This story is such a scam from a bitter woman. A complete fabrication in an attempt to belittle and slanderize a woman in an effort to make herself feel better. This was truly a low and pathetic move. I wish that everyone that reads this article had all the “True” details and knew this woman as I do. I feel truly sorry for the young girl this old haggard witch involved in this drama, and feel even more sympathy for her husband whom has to live with this embodiment of evil.

  11. Jewels says:

    I have learned from previous relationships that if a partner wants something then they will tell you all kinds of lies just to get in your pants. Which seems to be the case here. I know the wife and the homewrecker in this case and yes they had problems before but the wife left because the husband cheated and yes 6 months after she left she moved in with someone else and a few months after that she did come back home and worked things out with her husband. But I don’t think she’s the whore for leaving her husband who cheated!! As far as the homewrecker goes I am not saying what she did was right but nobody knows what this husband told her to get what he wanted. I think this was a very smart move on the wife posting on here because regardless if the homewrecker new the truth or not she knew he was married and so was she!

    • Homewrecker says:

      I have apologized over and over to you Lesley. I am not justifying my actions but during this time – I was in a terrible state of mind. I live with these regrets everyday. this was not the person that I am. I am trying to move on with my life but you continuously harass me and bring this up. I only wish that you could find peace and try to work things out with your husband. He’s there – he’s trying. I wish that there was some way to turn back time. either way – somehow you need to let this go. I am truly sorry for what I did to you and your family. it haunts me without your posts all over the internet.

  12. Male_Homewrecker says:

    It seems like every party involved was at fault in some form or fashion. Blasting someone’s business online isn’t the right thing to do unless you are truly seeking advice on how to move on. If you continue to hold a grudge against this person, your mind will never truly be free to move on. You have to let go of her. You have to forgive her. Then learn to forgive yourself. Move on in life and put this incident behind you. You can’t place all the blame squarely on this girl. You and your husband have to take blame for your own actions. Life will keep moving. Choose to move with it and relinquish your demons to the past. Make a beautiful future. Best wishes.

  13. Nicole says:

    Haha, wow. WAYCROSS made it on here… shocked there are so few. This town is full of HE’s!

  14. Anne says:

    I tried and it did not work, he will again cheat given time,move on while you are still young and meet someone who really loves you.

  15. realdeal says:

    I strongly suggest you divorce him.
    You are claiming confusion, I doubt that.

  16. MarryAnn says:

    It’s not always they cheat again. If he does love you and knows the other women was a HUGE mistake it can work eventually!! Keep your head up! Do you think he’s still seeing or talking to her?

    • realdeal says:

      A spouse who engages in sex outside the marriage has a strange way of showing love. Mistake excuse is no excuse.

      • MaryAnn says:

        I agree with you about it being a crazy way to show love but with all the years they have invested in their marriage, and children,that’s just a lot to throw away for a homewrecker!! Don’t you think?

  17. gaemployee says:

    He does still talk to her, surely. They work together. They have to speak. Get over it and quit giving her hell. She has moved on, happily. She doesn’t want him. They just found each other at bad points in their relationship. It was a mistake from both parties.

  18. Tru3_life says:

    He’s still messing around. She’s still messing around. He liked having a new piece of tail, and she liked giving it to him. Your wasting your breath. Just give up and move on. They are probably still going at it on the side or just found a new coworker to sleep with. They are both whores.

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