Well, Here we go. Im not too sure on when exactly the affair between my husband and this Girl began so, Ill start with how I found out. Saturday, Hubby and I are having a good time dancing drinking and just full of laughs at a local bar. I go to the bathroom and as I’m walking out I see this Girl standing drunk off her ass in the corner, holding the wall up. She screams at the top of her lungs from one side of the room to the other, My husband kinda ignores the call but she yells again, this time louder. I look and Im like ok, Shes excited to see him? So I nudge him and he looks over. The Girl does the whole finger call to him and tells him “now!” Well, My husband like an ass walks over and lets go of my hand. I follow and the first word out his mouth was, “who you here with?” Im like ok, why does that matter. She looks down and whispers, “my Boyfriend” I noticed my hubby was upset but couldn’t show it and tells the Girl, “ok, I’m leaving” she says “why? Who you here with” my hubby starts to walk away. Mind you im standing there the whole time, at his side like, WTF, Who is this chick and why is he so concerned. He proceeds to walk away, without me, as she pulls him in to her and kisses his cheek, she then whispers something in his ear. Now, I’m Livid. My heart is racing but I keep calm. I ask my husband, “who was that?’ Oh thats Velia, everyone knows Velia. No, that wasnt my question, why didn’t you introduce me to her. Husband said he thought I knew her…………..???? Ok, now im on suspicious mode. My mind is racing and My Investigator badge is out.
So the next day I do some research, they dated around the time we first started dating and IDK how long that lasted. So we get into a fight I kick him out and he leaves. And yup, Guess where he goes, to HER house. She starts posting on FB about her new man and how I should have “taken care” of my man and he wouldn’t be there with her. She sends me FB messages of nonsense about, He wanted her and talking about their sex and blah blah blah. Well, this whole time, he is messaging me begging me back asking me to meet him here or there, finding any excuse to see me. I never did. I was done. I had all I needed. So after 2 weeks he started to distance himself from me texts stopped coming in as much. It was like at 9am texts up until 5p everyday, she works from 8a-5P daily mind you. So whatever. then he comes at me about our daughter, he misses her he needs to see her. So we arrange to have him watch her while I worked. Everytime he would try to kiss me or go in for a hug. It was disgusting. He was disgusting.
Well, 3 weeks after our break up, something must have happened between them two. All of a sudden after all his lies as to why his texts stopped coming in he said his phone would die or battery didn’t work or he had no charger. All of a sudden on a thursday, texts were all day long up until 3a then at 6a again, good Morning Beautiful! and all day, all night. I told him, wow, funny how long this phone is lasting all of a sudden. what happened? He said it just started working he didn’t know why……………..mmmhhhmmm. So Saturday he comes over and begs, cries and swears he wants us back (kids and I) He sleep outside and of course, I can’t be so mean, I let him in. He hasn’t left since. But now, this chick is at it again with the messages. Seriously, how can she be ok with being the other girl? How can she sleep at night knowing shes not only hurting me, but his daughters! How can she be so selfish? Now I’m the w****? I’m the b****? How the hell does she figure that one out? Hubby and I are still really rocky and sometimes I can’t look at him but, I did miss him. I really don’t know what to do in my situation. And FYI, Its not about the whole “I should have taken better care of him” I am a damn good wife and mother. I know this for a fact. My husband has not worked in years, can’t seem to find a job. Guess he needed to feel like a man for a little while or I don’t know. Maybe he realized it was the wrong way or if this chick didnt want to support a man. But then why is she still harassing me? Why does she take time out of her day to tell me what a hoe I am? So many questions I have no clue how to answer.