As a reformed cheater I want to share a few thoughts.
First of all, men like me who cheat don’t do it because the women we cheat with are hot or amazing, we do it because they’re easy and desperate. Easy to take advantage of. Easy to walk away from. Desperate for attention, affection and sex and are willing to put up with the few scraps we throw their way in exchange for being taken advantage of. I was a big person in a small community and had women come on to me all the time. They were willing to neglect their husbands, boyfriends and even their kids to be used by me. I would set up meetings with women like this and time and time again stand them up on my whim, yet they kept coming back for more. My double life came to a halt after I met an amazing woman. At first I thought there was no way it was going to last so I just kept up my cheating behind her back. After all, I felt so bad about myself I figured a decent woman would dump me sooner or later and I might as well have some backup. I had a bunch of side chicks who seemed to get off on the fact I had a girlfriend even more. She was beautiful and very successful and none of these side chicks had two dimes to rub together but they seemed to like the idea of screwing over the type of woman they would never be. Thankfully, one of these easy tricks took it too far.
She began coming around at social events when my girlfriend was there. She would show up with her greasy hair and her desperate eyes hoping to get my attention. Even though I would ignore her she kept coming back for more….what? Did she think I was going to leave my girlfriend for her? Absolutely not. Then she friend requested my girlfriend and at that moment my girlfriend knew. In her words, “I’m not friends with loser whores.” She figured it out and I was caught. I won’t go into all I have done and am still doing to make it right with her but a luxury car and a bunch of other stuff later, I will do anything to make the situation right. She has access to all my accounts and there’s no way it would ever happen again. When I think about the women I was messing with I feel sick. I wouldn’t acknowledge a single one of them in public they’re all so nasty. In addition my girlfriend informed these womens husbands, boyfriends, families and employers. Of course the loser who tried to friend her then began threatening my girlfriend to keep a secret, so not only did she of course tell her boyfriend and her mom I also had enough information to share with her to get the authorties involved with this woman’s kids and her ex now has them, and she’s going through the court system for felony charges. Of course I’m not going to keep their secrets at this point and give the info over to my girlfriend to win her back. Hook up with somebody with a wife or your girlfriend at your own risk. You likely will get thrown away or worse.